Feeling Low
Highs and lows are normal, anyone would say that. The fact that things don't always go the way you think, hope, or expect is seen as a byproduct of life. You get the feeling that you can't really rely on anything – only the "ups and downs" seem certain.
What are "lows" and why do they bother us so much?
Lows are phases when we don't feel good. Everyone probably has certain emotional states and life circumstances that they consider ideal.
A low could be seen as a deviation from this ideal state.
This deviation often seems extreme because it can drag on for minutes, hours, days, or even months. It feels like you have no control over leaving this state.
At first, you try to actively change something. But eventually, this low becomes such a part of you that you accept it as background noise. Sometimes, however, the low is so present that it restricts everyday life. No matter what phase you're in, the days when you felt good echo like a distant memory. It feels like it was in another life, and you wonder how you even got here. One problem piles on top of the next, often in different areas of life, until the mountain is so big that you feel like you're drowning.
If you look at all the things, people, and situations in life soberly, there would be so much that could bother you. Actually, everything could displease you - or not. There are things that bother us, but others would be happy about them, and vice versa.
The problem lies not with the things, people, or situations themselves, but in our evaluation. We constantly perceive things that we don't react to, that we don't pay attention to. They bounce off us. But through our evaluations, we actively reject something. We identify with the problem, only to then say that it doesn't correspond to our ideal image. What we forget in the process is that on an energetic level, we bind ourselves to precisely this thing.
Imagine you're sitting in a restaurant and constantly telling the waiter what you don't want. You keep reminding him and ask if he's remembered it all well. No one would do that. Everything you don't want, you don't mention - period. You can imagine the universe exactly like that.
Sometimes we get exactly what we wanted, and sometimes we don't. But simply categorizing a state can be problematic. We have to name things to communicate, but the constant evaluation of everything is certainly amplified by social media. On the one hand, we are supposed to actively evaluate things, on the other hand, we are bombarded with so much that we constantly feel we have to decide whether to ignore, like, or dislike something. This state is exhausting in the long run and drains our energy.
Is it possible to live a life where you no longer react to everything and everyone? Can you simply observe situations as a spectator?
It's not about becoming emotionless, but about celebrating the things you love and bringing more of them into your life. At the same time, you should learn to "simply" (or over time) let go of what you don't want, while accepting the duality of life.
Perhaps this change in perspective is a way to reduce the feeling of constant overwhelm.
Task:
Over the next three days, observe yourself and your life from an outside perspective. In a notebook, write down how you react to your daily life. What bothers you, what do you like? Separate your list into positive and negative reactions. This will quickly give you an idea of how you approach life. This is a good starting point to steer your life back in the desired direction.
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Until next time! Love, G